Nobody’s perfect,however, by committing to personal growth you can not only lead a more fulfilling life but by changing a few fundamentals of how you think and behave you can move closer to the ideal self.
Things will go wrong and the path of self improvement will not be smooth sailing but by accepting responsibility for your life and who you become you can move on quickly and get back on track. Accept that some things are in your control and some are not. Don’t blame others for your lack of success and don’t focus on any negative behaviours of others when evaluating why things have not gone the way you wanted. Instead focus on your own actions and what you could have done differently to influence the end result.
LIVE WITH PURPOSE
Every man needs to have a life mission over and above everything else to give them a reason to get out of bed each morning. Finding what that path is will lead to higher levels of clarity, drive, direction, energy and ultimately happiness. Don’t follow the crowd unconsciously and stagnate, think ahead, set goals and commit to achieving them. Don’t be too obsessed with the future to pay attention to the present and enjoying the here and now for what it is. But spending time on identifying what you really want from life at a deep primal level,as opposed to the cars, the girls, the money, and taking consistent steps toward realising those ambitions will accelerate your progress and enjoyment of life.
STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF
Take some time to consider and identify your core values as a man, moral principles that you are not willing to compromise upon and will hold yourself and others accountable to. Once you have done this, commit to upholding those standards regardless of the inconvenience caused by doing so. Write them down and fix them in place, return to them when your circumstances test you. Establishing a strong moral code makes it far easier to remain true to who you are and who you aspire to be when things aren’t going the way you’d like. Committing to these values takes courage and upholding them will challenge you at times but the payoff will be well worth it.
SEEK CONTENTMENT FROM WITHIN
Learn to notice, accept and appreciate everything positive in our lives and around us in the world. Once you begin to pay close attention you will find beauty, creativity, inspiration, triumph, pain and joy surrounds us constantly in life. Celebrate your own flaws and those of the people you care about. The more we notice and have gratitude for in our lives the happier we become.
‘We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.’ ~Frederick Keonig
EMBRACE YOUR VULNERABILITY
A misconception of a ‘strong man’ is that even when we are hurting inside, we need to lock it up and put on a front. Big Boys don’t cry! But release is a necessary human function and by not showing our emotions we become distant, angry, frustrated and disconnected. It is impossible for us to connect with Women or other men at a deep level if we are caging up pain afraid to show we are hurting. The ability to take off the mask and express how you really feel is vital in living and loving to the fullest and becoming the best man you can be.